Couples Therapy

 

 

Is your relationship missing intimacy? Are you recovering together from big life changes or traumas? 

 

Using a blend of Gottman Therapy and Emotional Focused Therapy to provide couples and families with tools they need to connect and work through barriers to that connection and depth.

Gottman Therapy

It is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that strives to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, this type of therapy helps couples identify and address the natural defenses that hinder effective communication and bonding.

Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed.

Emotional Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) refers to a specific model of relationship therapy that explicitly integrates systems and experiential approaches and places prominence upon attachment theory as a theory of emotion regulation. Emotional Focused Therapy views attachment needs as a primary motivational system for mammalian survival; her approach to EFT focuses on attachment theory as a theory of adult love wherein attachment, caregiving, and sex are intertwined.   Attachment theory is seen to include the search for personal autonomy, dependability of the other and a sense of personal and interpersonal attractiveness, lovability and desire. Johnson's approach to EFT aims to reshape attachment strategies towards optimal interdependency and emotion regulation, for resilience and physical, emotional, and relational health.

EFT approaches are based on the premise that human emotions are connected to human needs, and therefore emotions have an innately adaptive potential that, if activated and worked through, can help people change problematic emotional states and interpersonal relationships.